Kosher question about dinner guests

[Anna Coussons]

I finally have a kosher kitchen with separate meat and dairy dishes etc.. But now I have a question. In two weeks I am having an Catholic family over for dinner. What do I do if they ask for a dairy item at a meat meal? For example, butter for their dinner rolls? or milk to drink with the meat meal? Since they are not Jewish I realize they can eat whatever they want, but in my home it is with my dishes and utensils. What do I tell them? Do I explain everything which seems not hospitable? I do not want to make them feel uncomfortable nor do I really want to engage in a theological discussion. Any advice?

[Sheri]

Have margarine or other non-dairy spread on the table as well as water and other beverages. I doubt that anyone will ask specifically for a dairy item. If they do, you can politely explain that you are out and offer a non-dairy alternative.

Do you know what they are bringing? You may need to worry about a dairy dessert.

[JennyLeah]

Further to Sheri's response, it may be a good idea to assume in terms of drinks. So instead of asking everyone what they'd like to drink, offer something specific. Saves space on the table, and makes eye-contact during dinner discussion easier to accomplish anyway.

[Matzohbelle]

We do not have a kosher kitchen, but a close friend does. She is very sweet about it but the rules are hers when in her kitchen. She makes people feel welcome yet explains the ground rules as much as anyone needs or wants to hear.

[shannas mama]

i'm with matzobelle.
about the rules being hers. Mazel tov on your kosher kitchen. The rules are yours.
I'm pretty sure you informed them first, that your kitchen is Kosher, and they don't need to bring anything.
I agree with having set foods, drinks, condiments out on the table to avoid them asking you for specific items.
Perhaps they are already familiar with Kashrut, or will be doing some research upon learning you keep a kosher kitchen? I think a theological discussion is not needed, but a quick explanation to their questions would go a long way. good luck and have a great dinner!